We expect effort to live in certain places. School. Work. Things with structure and "right answers". But personal growth asks something else entirely.

There’s something we rarely talk about at the beginning of a new year—yet almost all of us feel it. Almost quietly. Almost invisibly…

Here is a gentle invitation. Pause for a moment and give yourself permission to experience the fullness of it.

As n’betweeners, we tend to love getting things right, so we place unrealistic expectations on ourselves (and sometimes don’t even realize it!)

Imagine how different our relationships — and our world — would look if we could acknowledge a simple truth: We will hurt each other.

Starting 2026 with unrealistic goals, driven by the fantasy of a fresh start, without taking the time to reflect on the lessons 2025 offered.

Growing up constantly translating yourself between languages and worlds can make you forget your own voice. I explore this experience in this week’s episode of Kitchen Conversations.

Binaries shrink us. They tame us. And when we try to step outside of them, we risk something we dread: Rejection.

Representation matters. Belonging matters. Watching history unfold yesterday reminded me — our time has come.

What once made me feel powerless has become my sense of purpose. That pain — that void — became my compass.

Rainbows appear when opposites meet — when sunlight touches rain. They remind us that beauty is born in the both-and, not the either-or.

Believing means risking something. It means letting go of what’s familiar. Cause our nervous system is wired for survival — not success

When we silence our wants, we don’t actually protect ourselves. We just collect disappointment, resentment, and loneliness. And that silence eats away at us.

Are you attuning to yourself? As n’betweeners, we’ve been conditioned to tune ourselves out to survive. To belong. To shape-shift between worlds.

As n’betweeners, we’ve been taught to believe our power is small or limited. In reality our power is in how we think, how we act, and how we connect—with others and with ourselves.

You notice early on that you’re “different.” Or maybe you’re told you’re “too loud,” “too much,” or asked “why are you like that?.

The need to belong is stronger than the need to be honest. As n’betweeners, that pull to belong runs so deep we end up lying more than we’d like to admit.

The truth is, "why" questions have their place. But when it comes to our emotional landscapes? Here's why “why” hurts in emotional moments.

If you really knew me, you’d know I am a mirror — and sometimes my words cut, not to harm, but to reveal truths that heal.

How many times have you said "suuuuuure" when you meant "NOPE"? Saying yes when you mean no is a self-abandoning survival strategy that we n’betweeners learned early on.