Listen to this podcast — The cost of overexplaining yourself
Do you make yourself smaller to belong?
Well then — this podcast episode is for you.
What happens when you grow up translating yourself —between languages, families, and worlds — until you forget what your own voice sounds like?
That’s what I was invited to explore on this week’s Kitchen Conversations episode with Multicultural Family Hub.
We talk about the kind of shame that hides in plain sight —not loud, but steady.
The kind that shows up when someone switches to English mid-sentence.
When you’re asked, “Where are you really from?”
When you realize your body never quite relaxes —even in places that should feel like home.
For years, I tried to fix that by overexplaining who I was.
To make others comfortable. To make me legible.
Too brown here. Too white there. Too foreign everywhere.
This conversation is for every n’betweener —those of us who live n'between cultures, identities, and worlds, who belong everywhere and nowhere all at once.
We went deep — into the ache of not being “Danish enough,” the anger of always having to explain yourself, and the tenderness of finding community where you can finally exhale.
We talked about parenting, colorism, queerness, shame — and how healing begins when you stop performing belonging and start living it.
Listen to the episode — You get to be a Rainbow: What it means to be an n’betweener®
What spoke to you in this conversation?
Tell me — I read every submission.
XO
Nora
PS. Got a friend who feels stuck living between worlds — or who wants to understand what it really means to be an n’betweener? Send them this blog!