What if it Doesn’t Work Out?

One of the quiet fears I see in many n’betweeners is this:

“What if I believe in myself… and it doesn’t work out?”

That’s the one that keeps your chest tight, your body leaning forward but your feet still planted — caught between safety and becoming.

Because believing means risking something.

It means letting go of what’s familiar.

It means allowing yourself to want — fully — without apology.

And that’s terrifying for someone who’s spent a lifetime translating difference into danger.

Cause our nervous system is wired for survival — not success

So it imagines the worst-case scenarios: the loss, the rejection, the failure, the “what if I mess it all up?”

It’s trying to keep us safe.

Especially for n’betweeners, where belonging has always been essential — where love and safety were often tied to fitting in, not standing out — risk can feel like danger.

The life you built to feel safe no longer fits the life you’re meant to live.

Read that again.

You might have to expand beyond what your family or culture imagined, or outgrow a version of yourself that once kept you protected.

So instead of reaching higher, you stay contained.

You play small — not because you lack ambition, but because you don’t want to lose your place in the world.

But here’s the truth:

You were never meant to stay inside the story that once kept you safe.

You were meant to rewrite it.

When the pants don’t fit, it’s easy to let them go.

(Well… after one last try-on dance.)

But when it’s your own capacity you’ve outgrown —your sense of what’s possible — that’s when it takes real courage.

It's time to believe in yourself, to take that risk.

Think about this - what’s the current fear that’s keeping you from taking action? What is your current: "What if it doesn't work out?"

I’d love to hear where your next edge of belief is.

With care,