You don’t have to choose ONE feeling today

Here’s something I know about you: one of your gifts is holding complexity.

You have an incredible ability to see multiple truths at once.

You understand nuance.

You can hold competing experiences without needing to flatten them into something simple.

And sometimes—when things feel tender, charged, or overwhelming—you slip into black-or-white thinking.

You look for right or wrong.

You turn it inward: “I shouldn’t have said that.”

Or outward: “Why did they do that?”

Blame can feel like relief.

It gives us somewhere to put the weight. Phew.

And for many n’betweener people, it’s a familiar move—anything to escape the discomfort of holding all of it.

But here’s the thing:

When you do that, you’re running from the juicy part.

The uncomfortable part.

The spacious part.

The part where more than one thing gets to be true.

Today—whether you’re celebrating Christmas, marking the holidays quietly, spending time with family, or feeling the ache of what’s missing—notice if your mind tries to force the moment into a single story:

• “I should be happier.”

• “There’s something wrong with me/my family.”

• “Why can’t this just be easy?”

What if it didn’t have to be one thing?

What if today gets to be many things at once?

Joy n' grief.

Connection n' exhaustion.

Gratitude n' longing.

Laughter n' tenderness.

Here is a gentle invitation.

Pause for a moment and give yourself a permission slip to experience the fullness of it.

Not to fix it. Just to let it exist.

You’ve lived through a lot.

You’ve moved through moments you once thought you couldn’t.

And you’re still here—feeling, growing, becoming.

That matters.

And wherever you land today, know this— It’s okay to feel it all.

The good, the hard, and everything n’between.

Sending you warmth and gentleness this Christmas and holiday season.

You’ve got this.

Warmly,

Nora